Just ask

One thing I’ve been saying for many years, even as a young twink, was that if you have any questions about queer stuff, just ask. I’ve answered a lot of questions over the years, and wrote about some of them

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Five things

(I’m blaming Jason for this.) 1. Kondo Living There’s a Netflix show I haven’t yet seen about a certain Marie Kondo, who cleans your house by saying if something doesn’t spark joy, you should get rid of it. Folks were

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In 1990 I started at boarding school, aged 13. In what turned out to be eighteen months of living hell* interspersed with a life-long friendship or two, I learned the value of reinventing myself. I remember lying on my hostel

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